Sex is often a taboo subject. Mainly because it’s private and not something we really want to discuss with people. Even when we get married, sex is not a topic that’s usually brought up, even if it’s just between you and your husband. However, there are many reasons why the topic of sex should be brought up between a husband and wife.
Sex is a lifeline for the relationship
When your sex life starts waning, often times your relationship in general will too. Sex creates a powerful connection that covers all aspects of the spectrum: physically, emotionally, mentally, and passionately. If you’re feeling neglected in this area or if you feel like one or both of you are just not as into it as you used to be, talk to your spouse about it. It doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with either one of you or your relationship.
When you get married, it’s easy to forget to continue learning about your spouse. You feel like you know them and those specifics won’t ever change. That’s the wrong way to look at it. I guarantee you that you and your spouse will have many things change as far as preferences go in life. For example, my husband used to love when I lightly bit his lip when kissing heavily. His lips have gotten more sensitive in recent years and one night, he took the time to let me know in a sweet way, that he no longer preferred the nibbling. I wasn’t offended in the slightest and I was very pleased to know a new detail about what would please my spouse.
You may be unaware that something is off
Sometimes, we will sense that our spouse just isn’t into sex as much or those passionate moments just don’t have that spark. This goes both ways. There has been a time or two I felt something change with my husband. When this has happened, I give it time just to make sure it wasn’t just an off night. If it happened again, I approached him and asked about it. One time, he actually was surprised. It turns out, a little tiff we had in the past left him worried about my happiness. This caused his emotions to bleed through to our intimate moments.
Sex talks can lead to better and deeper communication
When I took the time to talk to my husband about the situation, it allowed him to open up about something else in our relationship that had been bothering him. I have found that more times than not when your sex life is weak, it usually stems from something else in the relationship, not the sex itself. Therefore, bringing up an intimate and deep topic such as sex can open up a door to other emotions and connections between the two of you. Some of the best conversations I’ve ever had with my husband began with the topic of our sex life.
Do you and your spouse talk about sex? Why not give it a try?