An active life outdoors can translate into a mutually satisfying sex life anywhere: on the kitchen table, over the arm of the loveseat, in the shower, in a tent, or under a beach blanket. I am the seventh child of my mom. Well, the one I call Mommy is my biological grandma. She passed away last summer. But what did she teach me about love, marriage, and sex? That it can be amazeballs or amazeboobs! It was a given that sex was described to me as a positive, wonderfully, mutually fun thing. There was none of that nonsense as if it would be icky or unpleasant when Mommy talked to me about sex. She just said to me, “You have a boyfriend. It’s natural for you to really want to go to bed with him because you are attracted to him but don’t. You’ll miss out on how great sex is meant to be. Wait.”
Mommy was a sexy Christian, you could say. She was widowed for less than a decade when she became my mom. She and her husband, despite running a business together and raising six kids, went on regular date nights after work. Her mom babysat when they arrived home super late for some more romance.
What’s with all this sex talk?
Well, how you and your spouse relate to each other doesn’t really change all that much when it translates to how you treat each other as friends in the bedroom. Friends don’t bully. Friends aren’t hurtful. Friends aren’t selfish. Pretty much time spent doing anything with a friend is a delight. Right? So imagine summer delights such as sending him off to watch hockey at the bar with his guy friends while you annihilate your rival softball team with your best girlfriends? Each spouse wants the other’s life to be rich, full of joy and lasting friendships. That consideration translates into electrifyingly fun lovemaking together because life stays fresh. Don’t you agree?
You really don’t need kinky boardgames or any shade of grey. Do you? What is sweetness and spiciness to you? Maybe he lets you have the shower first after a bike ride? Maybe he stands outside the hiking portopotty with the broken lock so you can relieve yourself without worrying that you’ll display your most beautiful parts to the local bears and rangers? That is hot stuff.
As for you? Your man is already hot for you. The kind crinkle by your eyes when his mom at the convalescent home calls you by your sister-in-law’s name for the 10th time? When his brother asks to borrow money for gambling and you sweetly and firmly decline?
You are for each other. Happy summer romping together, Newlyweds. Keeping your man’s interest? Not a problem. Don’t sweat it. You are one sexy gal! Continue to be yourself: a great friend ‘til death do you part.
Tip: Bring non-drowsy OTC antihistamine when both of you get hives after rolling around in tall dry grass. Antibacterial, anti itch bug bite cream is also a relief. Stay hydrated and you’ll be plenty sexy!