Let’s face it. Opposites attract, and your spouse’s friends aren’t always your friends. And maybe you honestly don’t like them very much. (Think You, Me and Dupree). It’s important to have mutual friends, and especially important to have other couples to spend time with. So where do you find these people? How do you make friends as a couple?
Start with family first. Maybe your sister and brother-in-law are in need of couple friends, or you have some cousins that just got married and don’t have any mutual friends either. Family is also a great place to find other couples. Your brother-in-law just may have an awesome family that you haven’t met yet.
Work isn’t just about work. Your coworkers can be great friends, and so can your spouse’s coworkers. Make plans to introduce each other. The holidays are a great time to do this because many companies have holiday gatherings that welcome significant others.
Attend community gatherings. Just like the work parties, community gatherings are a great place to meet people. You already have a common ground – the place that you live. Strike up a conversation with a couple standing alone. They might just be your new best friends.
Take a class. Even if it’s one of those classes that you take to reduce points on your license, you can bet that there are other people there for the same reason. While you’re waiting for the class to start, say hello to the people at the table next to yours. Many communities offer classes at the local high school, so you don’t even have to go far!
Join clubs. Maybe you and your spouse are into skiing. A ski club is a great place to meet new people. Other clubs you can join are clubs for bicyclists, motorcyclists, and car enthusiasts. Search the local paper for ones to join, or check out meetup.com.
Volunteer for things. Your local pet shelter, soup kitchen, and nursing home are always looking for help, and giving always puts everyone in a great mood.
Go to church! Churches have many functions and gatherings full of people. You’ll be sure to find another couple you have things in common with there.
The best part of going out to meet people as a couple is that you’re not alone. If you don’t see anyone there that you’d be interested in hanging out with, that’s fine, because you always have each other anyway! Don’t judge a book by its cover though – sometimes people may not look friendly but they really are… they may just be nervous. You have nothing to lose by striking up a conversation.
How did you and your spouse make friends as a couple?