Do you look at elderly couples holding hands and think about how you want that to be you and your special someone in a few decades? Those elderly couples have a secret: they fell in love with each other over and over again throughout the years. You can too. Here are 7 ways you and your spouse can stay in love forever:
- Accept that things change. People change over the years, in good ways and bad ways. If you sit around dwelling on the changes that bother you, you’ll miss out on the good ones. For every change that annoys you, find another one that makes you happy. Keep an open mind – you will change too.
- Always make time for each other. Work, family, and social obligations can all steal time away from your love. While it’s important to make time for all of those things, making time for each other has to be a priority – whether it is watching TV, taking walks in the park, or even doing yard work together.
- Be considerate. Marriage is not one-sided and you need to have consideration for the other person’s feelings and needs if you expect them to have consideration for yours. Treat your spouse with the same respect that you would like, even if you’re not crazy about their latest endeavor.
- Do the things you did in the beginning. Remember when you first met and you got butterflies in your stomach? Hold hands, rub each other’s shoulders, and write love letters like you did then. Text in the middle of the day to say I love you, or surprise him with a gift for no reason.
- Be forgiving. This one can’t be stressed enough. No one is perfect. Your spouse isn’t, and neither are you. Learning to forgive each other is very important.
- Overlook the small things. Yes, it’s annoying when your husband makes a midnight snack and leaves the crumbs on the counter. Each person has their own annoying habits. Learning to live with, and even laugh about them, will make you much happier than always complaining about them.
- Seek professional counseling. Sometimes something happens in a relationship that’s just too big for you to work out on your own. A counselor can help you work through it and give your marriage a fighting chance.
The bottom line is that marriages take work and commitment from both parties. So many couples today give up long before they should, and often end up regretting it later. You’ll never be that elderly couple walking down the street holding hands if you don’t keep at it until then.
Been married long? How have you and your spouse stayed in love all of these years?