Welcome to week five of the Saturday Spark! Hopefully you will take the challenge and let everyone know how it is going in the comments section below.
Last Week’s Challenge
So, how did everyone do with the week 4 challenge – Go for Walks Together? Did you head out into the neighborhood for some exercise and quality time? My husband and I have been going for a bunch of walks lately and our dog is loving it!
This Week’s Challenge – Don’t Tear Down
I was reading an article the other day on a site called hitched about how you shouldn’t talk trash about your spouse. It got me thinking about how I talk about my husband with others. I know that I will mention some things he does that annoy me when talking with my sister. Or even write about them on my blog. What am I trying to accomplish when I do things like this? Mainly I want to have someone validate the way I feel. But, at what cost? The article states:
Let’s face it, it’s fun to trash and bash. It’s highly entertaining to pick on our spouse sometimes. TV and film make a fortune off making us laugh about the flaws and foibles of the imperfect people we live with. What we don’t realize is what all that picking is doing to your marriage. You see, anything you focus on grows. So if you focus on how miserable you are in your marriage, you get more miserable. If you focus on how happy you are in your relationship, you get happier. Getting together with your friends and bad-mouthing your significant other, the state of your marriage and men and women in general has one guaranteed result: none of those things are going to get better.
What I took away from this article is that I need to try harder not to tear down my husband. Focusing on the negative isn’t getting me anywhere, and it just makes him look bad. Why would I want to make other people think poorly of my husband?
What is stopping you?
- You feel frustrated and need to vent? Admit it, these feelings of frustration don’t really get better when you have shared them with someone else, do they? In fact, dwelling on what is frustrating you can actually make you feel worse about it. I’m not saying that you should just ignore it, but if it is something that is really bothering you about your spouse, maybe you should bring it up with him.
- Are you a blogger and need topics for your blog? There are so many things to write about. Tearing down your spouse doesn’t need to be one of them. Instead, think of something you can write about that you would be proud to have your spouse read.
The 03.03.2012 Challenge
So, your challenge this week is to not talk trash about your spouse to others. Although this is a challenge for this week, I want to try to get better at this all of the time. Who is with me?
Let us know how it goes – write a comment below or blog about your week and include your link in your comment (feel free to use the button above on your blog with a link back to this post).
Do you have an idea for a Saturday Spark Challenge? Let me know.
Sneak peak at next week’s Saturday Spark… Double date.
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