This post was written by a guest author. He writes about how to manage newlywed responsibilities when you are both attending college.
Being a newlywed can be extremely exciting, but also feverishly busy. Along with a marriage comes an army of new responsibilities, and life seems to move at a much faster pace. When my wife and I first got married, we were pretty clueless as to how we were going to manage our time and our home. We were both still in school, made everything just that much more difficult. We quickly had to figure out how to manage our new responsibilities while both of us finished up our degrees.
How to Manage Your Newlywed Responsibilities While in School
Be open to changes
To free up some time for ourselves, my wife switched from a full-time to a part-time evening law program and I opted to finish my masters program in management online instead of in the traditional classroom-based format. This way I could be home most of the day instead of at school. We hadn’t planned on a set-up like this, but it is just how it worked out. My wife didn’t necessarily want to do the evening program, but we both knew it would work out best, so she became accepting of the idea. Being open to change will help facilitate the entire transition process.
It took us some time to get used to our schedule and situation. We were both a little tense for the first few months, but slowly eased into our routine. Be mindful of your words, your actions and your attitude as you make the important changes you need to make. This is an exciting time in your life, and you should do your best to keep your stress down and just roll with the punches. Patience can be the furthest thing from your mind when things get hectic, but it is important to remember to keep your cool.
Even with just two people, the laundry and cooking responsibilities can add up quickly. Since we were both going to school, it made sense to split the household chores evenly. On the nights that I was home early, I would cook dinner, and when she was home, she would cook. The laundry, grocery shopping and cleaning was also split evenly between the two of us. No one wants to do chores when they get home, so splitting them allowed the chores to seem a lot less daunting. We also learned a lot about teamwork through splitting our responsibilities, which has helped to strengthen our relationship.