It’s time to start thinking about the Christmas season. Don’t start groaning yet. I know what you’re thinking – another season where your mailbox and inbox will be flooded with pictures of your friends and family members’ kids in coordinating sweaters, all smiling sweetly at the camera. The stores will be full of pictures showing sweet little angels ready to enjoy their Christmas Eve PJ’s and cookies for Santa.
Let’s face it…. Christmas seems to be marketed for kids. If you don’t have kids by choice, then the influx of Christmas cards with kids holding glittery packages and stuffed bears with the classic lighted tree in the background can be just a little annoying.
But if you are a newlywed couple who is trying hard to get pregnant, then this time of year can also be full of some very conflicting emotions. Yes, you are thrilled to see how much little Susie is growing, but the steady stream of photo cards can be pretty tough if you haven’t been able to get pregnant yourself.
Here are some ideas to help you not just endure the holiday season as a family unit of 2, but also to hopefully remind you that Christmas is not just about children. It’s the time to make some memories and enjoy being with the people you love.
Shop for Others
Whether you have chosen to not have children like my husband and I or are hoping and trying to get pregnant with each new month, take some time this season to shop for others. Find an elderly relative or neighbor and do something special for them. Pick out a card from the Angel Tree and shop for a child who isn’t going to have presents. Buy a cow or goat for a community in Africa. By focusing on others instead of just yourself you will probably find that the Christmas season gets more special.
Take a Vacation
The Christmas season is a great time to take a vacation since many families with children will want to be home celebrating their traditions under their own tree. This could be the perfect time to plan a trip to Disney World (who says the Magic Kingdom is only for toddlers and miniature princesses?). Check with a travel agent and see if you can get a discount by traveling on Christmas morning. Plan a weekend getaway at a honeymoon resort.
Host a Couples Party
This is a great time to host a party for adults only. Sure, you can invite your friends that have kids; but focus on your friends who are in the same place you are. Send out invitations that clearly state that this party is for adults only. Call up a local college and hire a piano student or harp player to provide seasonal dinner music.
Maybe you could hold an Ugly Christmas Sweater party or White Elephant get together?
Scheduling tip: If you can’t find a time that works for everyone, think outside the typical time frame. Plan a party that doesn’t start until midnight or plan it around the schedules of some early risers and serve a super early breakfast bar.
Snap lots of photos
For some couples who are in the ‘hoping to get pregnant’ season of life, they forget to celebrate their time of just being a couple. Since Christmas can get so focused on children, it’s easy to fall into a winter slump or experience some blues. Make a point to create photo opportunities for you and your spouse. This is a special time of life when you can really focus on just the two of you. Make the moments count. Don’t forget to take winter snow selfies with the two of you! Decorate a Christmas tree and get a couple photo in front of the tree.
Are you looking forward to the Christmas season or do you have mixed emotions? Just because the holidays seem to be geared toward children doesn’t mean the adults need to feel left out.
How do you plan to celebrate the season as a couple? I’d love to hear and share your ideas and tips!