Once upon a time you were wooed, catered to and swept off your feet by someone who turned into your spouse. The same spouse who was devoted and listened to your every care, until recently you realized things aren’t quite the same. In fact, there’s something that has come between the two of you and that something has four legs and a wagging tail. Could your dog be ruining your marriage?
It sounds terrible to say, but man’s best friend could become a marriage’s worst nightmare if the two of you aren’t on the same page when it comes to Fido. If you’re not at a splitting point but feel an awkwardness looming between you and your spouse and know that your dog is a sore subject, take a look at why that may be.
There’s snuggle time while watching TV, long walks and cuddling at night that should keep you two close together, except if you’re doing it all with a dog in-between the two of you. If you find you are spending more quality time with Fido than your spouse – this could be a big problem, especially if intimacy has dwindled between you and your spouse, or you find that you’re never truly alone during intimate moments you may want to re-evaluate your priorities on who you really want to spend time with.
Maybe it’s your dog that is behaving badly that is causing the rift. Tearing up furniture and causing a ruckus inside can wear on your nerves, or if your dog is a digger; digging up the once beautiful landscape or even escaping for an afternoon rendezvous throughout the neighborhood. If the spouse who isn’t completely sold on the dog is always cleaning up the mess made, you can be sure there will be some pent-up frustration.
If the major issue is merely a training issue, get your pup the help he needs before you’re stuck by yourself. There are plenty of dog obedience schools available to teach Fido the manners he needs to live peacefully inside and out. If money’s tight, check out a dog training app or check out a book from your local library. If your dog is a constant runaway, you may want to look into safety measures that will actually keep him in your yard; an invisible fence is a great option.
However, if the issue lies with how much time you spend with Fido over your spouse, start refocusing your attention with a healthy balance between Fido and your spouse. For starters, give Fido somewhere to sleep other than the bed you share with your spouse. If you find yourself still yearning to spend more quality time with your dog instead of your spouse, you may have underlying issues with your spouse that aren’t related to the dog at all. You may want to enlist the help of a certified relationship counselor to figure out what those issues may be and if the relationship is worth saving.
Is your dog coming between you and your spouse? How are you going to handle it? Share in the comments below.