Now that the shower and wedding are over, you have a pile of gifts (hopefully your friends and family have good taste!) and a bunch of thank you notes to write. Don’t let the task scare you. Thank you notes are much easier than you think!
4 Tips for writing thank you notes
- You don’t need to reinvent the wheel. There are hundreds of thousands of pre-made thank you cards out there. Browse online and in store to choose your favorites. Many people like to go to photo editing websites, upload a picture from their wedding, and create a customized thank you note. You could customize with your favorite Bible verse or a portion of your wedding vows, for example. If you use that option, it’s nice to write a little message on the bottom (“Dear Aunt Sally, we love the gravy boat!”). If you don’t remember who gave you what, a simple thank you message will do as well – “Thank you for your gift. We enjoyed celebrating our new beginning with you!” Do try to keep track of which person gave you which gift, though, because it’s much nicer to address the gift and give an example of how you’ll use it. (“The crock pot will make a nice planter!”)
- If you get pre-made cards from the store, consider inserting a wedding picture. You can go to your local drugstore and make wallet sized prints. It makes your guests feel like they are appreciated, and it takes minimal effort on your part.
- If you’re one of the lucky recipients of a bundle of cash at your wedding, you could take the thank you card one step further and give a small thank you gift in return. Popular ideas are bookmarks with your names, date, and a picture, a homemade gift like cookies or candies, or even gift baskets. Of course, you don’t need to send a thank you gift to everyone – just the people who went above and beyond for your wedding in some way. Most of the time this includes parents, grandparents, and the wedding party.
- It should go without saying, but it’s not okay to email or text a thank you. There is a time and place for technology, and this is not one of them. Spend the extra few minutes addressing and stamping the envelopes. If you had your invitations professionally done, the printer may be able to help you with a second set of envelopes to match. Feel free to embellish a little – a monogram of your new last name, a little bit of ribbon, and fancy paper is always nice. Also be sure to use your own handwriting if you can. Handwriting is much more personal than something typed, unless you’re a doctor and no one can read what you’re writing.
The biggest thing about thank you notes is remembering why you’re doing them. You may never use that bread maker, but someone thought of you when they bought it. Treat people the way you would like to be treated, and thank them in a way that shows that you appreciate the thought, even if the gift wasn’t something you wanted. It truly is the thought that counts.
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