Being newly wed is a blissful time for couples. In this stage, couples are still getting to know each other and are in the process of adjusting in this new phase of their relationship. Your in-laws may be great people but actually living with them may not be such a good idea. Sure, you may be able to save money by residing with them but you might end up having to pay a higher price in the long run. Here are four reasons why you should not live together with your in-laws.
All couples should be allowed to have their private time together. But with your in-laws constantly around, you may no longer be able to spend quality time with your spouse at home. And it is their home you are living in, you’ll have a hard time telling them to give you time alone.
Too much familiarity can breed contempt
When it comes to in-laws, no matter how awesomely cool they are, it is always better to keep a safe distance. Before marriage, you might be the nice girlfriend who is such a pleasure to have around. But a few months into the marriage, you might become the lazy daughter-in-law who refuses to clean up or the wife who can’t cook. Your beautiful relationship would then go down the drain.
They’ll expect you to answer to them
You might be grown-ups already but to your parents, you will still be the children. It might be great to be treated as the little princess when you are young – but not when you have a family of your own. Acting like daddy’s little girl or a mama’s boy is not going to be good for your relationship with your spouse. Aside from this, living in your in-law’s house gives them a sense of authority over the both of you. After all, it is their house. So it has to be their rules. Living with your in-laws won’t give you total freedom. You would have to tiptoe around them to be sure that you won’t be offending any sensibilities. However if you don’t mind following their rules, then living with them may not be such a bad thing.
If you think that living with your in-laws is hard, just wait until you have children. As first-time parents, your in-laws will be seeing you as neophytes in the avenue of parenting. They won’t be able to resist butting in and giving advice even when you don’t want it. All of a sudden you may find that they are the ones raising your children instead of you.
Again, in-laws are great to have Sunday lunch with. But living with them is another story. Don’t make it any harder for you and your spouse. Don’t live with the in-laws.
Have you tried living with your in-laws? How did you make it work, or didn’t it work?
Resources for more help:
Toxic In-Laws: Loving Strategies for Protecting Your MarriageOvercoming Mother-In-Law Problems: An Essential Guide to Setting Boundaries and Getting Along with your Mother-in-LawA Wife’s Guide to In-laws: How to Gain Your Husband’s Loyalty Without Killing His ParentsReluctantly Related: Secrets To Getting Along With Your Mother-in-Law or Daughter-in-law