We are all looking for that “happily ever after” from fairy tales. We think that just because we’ve finally tied the knot with “The One,” we get to enjoy a blissful and harmonious relationship. Unfortunately, marriage doesn’t work this way. It has ups and downs, so if you don’t know how to meet your partner halfway, marriage can easily end up in divorce. However, there are ways that we can achieve marital bliss. Yes, it is hard work, but it is achievable.
Here are some ways to achieve marital bliss.
Don’t Focus Too Much on Yourself
Sometimes, the reason why we feel so lonely in our marriages is because we tend to focus on what we feel. The more disappointed and lonely we are in the failing relationship, the more we wallow in self-pity.
The first step that you need to do is to find out what your partner feels about the marriage. Is he content and satisfied? Is he disappointed as well? Does he want more in the relationship? Or does he not notice anything’s amiss at all? Sometimes, one partner is oblivious to what the other is feeling. He thinks nothing’s wrong when, in fact, his partner is having doubts about their relationship. The longer things are left unsaid, the bigger the rift between them grows.
To address the issue, you need to have a good talk with your partner. This will give you both the opportunity to talk about the problems in your marriage. This will give you the chance to understand his side of the story, too, as well as show him your thoughts regarding your relationship.
Do Things That Make You Both Happy
Visit the park and have a quiet walk; go and see a movie; have a dinner date at a fancy restaurant; take a mini vacation where you two can be alone, away from the daily stress of life. The important thing that you have to remember is that you’re looking for ways to reconnect again.
It’s difficult to be spontaneous, what with all your responsibilities and duties. However, spontaneity does not mean going on an unplanned short break out of town or bungee jumping. This simply means setting up a romantic dinner in bed, a massage after a long hard day at work, or maybe even a hug and a quick peck on the lips when he least expects it. By being spontaneous, you’ll also be encouraging him to be spontaneous as well.
The Need for Marriage Counseling
If all these don’t work and you’re both contemplating divorce, then why not give your marriage another shot by going to a marriage counselor. Sometimes counseling can help turn your relationship to the right direction.
Marriage is not easy; it takes hard work and lots of love, patience, and compromise. If you really want to achieve marital bliss, your own version of happily ever after, you have to work very hard at it.
Jennifer Dahley is a freelance content provider who specializes in love and relationships. If your relationship is getting too rocky for you to handle alone, going to a couples therapy Orange County may be a good idea.